Am I Sabotaging My Relationship Quiz?

Relationships require continuous work and nurturing from both partners. However, sometimes we unconsciously undermine the very connections we claim to want through self-protective or self-destructive behaviors.

This quiz will analyze your patterns, beliefs, and underlying motivations to determine if you are inadvertently sabotaging your relationship. It will look at your communication habits, attachment style, ability to be vulnerable, past traumas or baggage, and much more.

The questions will bring to light subtle behaviors or mindsets that could be standing in the way of cultivating a secure, thriving bond with your partner. Some may shine a light on deep-rooted fears, while others will assess more overt actions undermining your relationship.

The goal of this quiz is to create self-awareness around blind spots that may be prompting you to keep your romantic partner at arm’s length or engage in behaviors that breed resentment and disconnect.

With clarity around ways you could be self-sabotaging, you can begin to reprogram destructive patterns and make conscious choices to nurture greater intimacy and trust. Or, the assessment may reveal your struggles have roots that extend beyond the relationship itself.

So, let’s find out.

How do you react when your partner shares their feelings with you?

I listen attentively and try to understand their perspective

I struggle to pay attention and often get defensive

I dismiss their feelings and change the subject

I ignore their feelings completely

How do you handle conflicts in your relationship?

I address issues calmly and try to find solutions

I often escalate arguments and resort to personal attacks

I avoid conflicts altogether to keep the peace

I manipulate situations to make my partner feel guilty

I make an effort to consider their feelings and needs

I sometimes prioritize my needs over theirs

I rarely consider their needs and focus on my own

I completely ignore their needs and only focus on mine

How do you express affection towards your partner?

I express my love through words and actions regularly

I struggle to show affection and often seem distant

I only show affection when it benefits me

I rarely show any affection towards my partner

How do you handle disagreements regarding finances?

I insist on controlling all financial decisions

We discuss and budget together to find common ground

I spend money recklessly without consulting my partner

I avoid discussing finances with my partner

How do you respond when your partner shares their aspirations and dreams with you?

I encourage and support them in pursuing their goals

I downplay their ambitions and focus on practicalities

I dismiss their dreams as unrealistic

I pay no attention to their aspirations

How do you handle emotional intimacy in your relationship?

I avoid discussing emotional topics with my partner

I am supportive and understanding of their emotions

I am open and vulnerable with my partner

I am indifferent to their emotional needs

How do you react when your partner needs your help or support?

I offer support but may not always follow through

I am apathetic towards their struggles

I brush off their needs and focus on my own

I am there for them without hesitation

How do you handle disagreements about household responsibilities?

I expect my partner to do most of the chores

I refuse to help with household chores

We communicate and find a fair division of tasks

I avoid discussing household responsibilities

How do you approach resolving conflicts in your relationship?

I tend to blame my partner and avoid responsibility

I become defensive and refuse to engage in productive conversation

I ignore problems and hope they will go away on their own

We discuss issues calmly and seek compromise

How do you respond when your partner shares their feelings with you?

I listen attentively and try to understand their perspective

I struggle to pay attention and often get defensive

I dismiss their feelings and change the subject

I ignore their feelings completely

How do you react when your partner expresses their feelings?

I listen attentively and empathize with their emotions

I become defensive or dismissive of their feelings

I change the subject or ignore their feelings

I pay no attention to their emotions

How do you handle disagreements with your partner?

I avoid conflicts and pretend everything is fine

I argue stubbornly without considering their perspective

We communicate openly and work towards a resolution

I show little interest in resolving conflicts

How do you prioritize your partner's needs in the relationship?

I disregard their needs altogether

I actively support and prioritize their needs

I sometimes neglect their needs for my own interests

I rarely consider their needs over mine

How do you handle financial decisions with your partner?

We make financial decisions together

I dominate financial decisions without their input

I avoid discussing finances with my partner

I spend money without considering their input

How do you respond to your partner's aspirations and dreams?

I disregard their aspirations or dreams

I show no interest in their aspirations

I criticize or belittle their goals

I support and encourage their goals

How do you respond to your partner's dreams?

I support and encourage them

I disregard their aspirations

I criticize their goals

I show no interest

How do you respond to your partner's aspirations and goals?

I dismiss their goals as unimportant

I encourage and support their aspirations

I show little interest in their goals

I criticize or belittle their aspirations

How do you react when your partner seeks your opinion or advice?

I actively listen and offer thoughtful advice

I brush off their concerns or opinions

I pretend to listen but don't take their concerns seriously

I ignore their requests for advice or input

How do you react when your partner makes mistakes or falls short?