Am I Needy In Relationships Quiz?

There’s a fine line between having reasonable expectations in a relationship and being needy or codependent. Clinginess and constant reassurance-seeking can smother even the deepest connection.

But how can you tell if you’re guilty of these unhealthy tendencies?

This quiz will assess your behaviors, mindset, and core beliefs about intimacy to determine if you struggle with neediness in your romantic relationships. It will analyze your boundaries, ability to self-soothe, conflict strategies, and underlying motivations.

Some questions will pinpoint seemingly small habits that could be symptoms of much deeper anxious attachment issues. Others will examine early childhood experiences that may be the root cause.

The more honest you are, the more precise your results will be.

This quiz isn’t designed to shame you, but to bring awareness to blind spots that could be sabotaging your partnerships through cloying behaviors or suffocating expectations.

Let’s find out then.

How do you react when your partner doesn't reply to your texts immediately?

I trust they'll respond when they can

I become anxious and send more messages

I don't mind waiting for their response

I feel indifferent; it doesn't bother me

How do you feel when your partner wants to spend time alone?

I'm indifferent; it doesn't affect me either way

I'm happy for them to have their space

I feel lonely and unwanted

I understand and encourage them to do what they want

How often do you seek validation from your partner?

Occasionally, but I try to be self-assured

Constantly, I need reassurance to feel secure

Rarely, I'm confident in myself

Never, I rely on myself for validation

How do you react when your partner cancels plans with you?

I feel hurt and question their commitment

I'm indifferent; I don't really care either way

I'm understanding and suggest rescheduling

I don't mind; I find something else to do

How much attention do you expect from your partner?

I'm content with occasional attention

I need constant attention to feel loved

I'm indifferent; attention doesn't matter to me

I appreciate attention but don't demand it

How do you feel about your partner spending time with friends without you?

I feel left out and neglected

I encourage them to have their own social life

I'm happy they're enjoying themselves

I'm indifferent; it doesn't bother me either way

How do you respond when your partner is upset or stressed?

I offer support and comfort

I become anxious and overwhelmed

I give them space to deal with it on their own

I'm indifferent; their emotions don't affect me

How do you feel when your partner wants alone time?

I feel anxious and insecure when they're away

I don't mind; I have my own activities to focus on

I understand and respect their need for space

I'm indifferent; their presence doesn't affect me much

How do you react when your partner spends time with friends instead of you?

I don't mind; I enjoy my own company

I feel jealous and neglected

I'm supportive of their social life

I'm indifferent; their plans don't concern me much

How do you handle disagreements with your partner?

I become emotional and seek reassurance

I'm indifferent; conflicts don't affect me much

I communicate openly and seek resolution

I try to understand their perspective and compromise

How do you feel when your partner doesn't reply to your messages promptly?

I understand they may be busy and wait patiently

I'm fine waiting for them to respond whenever they can

I feel anxious and keep checking for their response

I'm indifferent; their response time doesn't bother me

How do you feel when your partner spends time with their friends without inviting you?

I encourage them to have their own social life

I feel left out and needy

I enjoy having time to myself

I'm indifferent; it doesn't bother me

How do you react when your partner expresses a desire for more space in the relationship?

I respect their need and give them space

I try to compromise, but it's difficult for me

I'm indifferent; their space doesn't affect me

I become anxious and clingy

How often do you seek validation or reassurance from your partner?

Occasionally, but I try to be self-assured

Constantly, I need their approval to feel secure

Never, I rely on myself for validation

Rarely, I'm confident in myself

How do you react when your partner expresses their need for independence?

I understand and respect their request

I'm indifferent; their independence doesn't affect me

I feel hurt and insecure

I try to compromise, but it's challenging for me

How do you react when your partner doesn't respond to your messages promptly?

I become anxious and send more messages

I don't mind waiting for their response

I trust they'll respond when they can

I'm indifferent; their response time doesn't concern me

How do you feel when your partner prioritizes their own needs over yours?

I feel neglected and needy

I struggle with feelings of resentment

How often do you seek reassurance from your partner?

Occasionally, when I need validation

Constantly, I need to feel loved and wanted

Rarely, I'm confident in our relationship

Never, I trust in our bond without needing reassurance

How do you feel when your partner needs space?

I feel anxious and insecure

I understand and give them the space they need

I'm fine with it; everyone needs alone time

I don't really care; it doesn't affect me

How do you react when your partner doesn't text you back immediately?