It’s natural to want security and stability in a relationship. But you may worry you’ve become too controlling in pursuing those goals, leaving your partner or yourself unhappy. Noticing unhealthy patterns requires compassionate self-reflection.
This quiz helps explore how you handle decision-making, responsibilities, disagreements and other situations as a couple. No one behaves perfectly, but gaining awareness of behaviors that feel domineering or rigid is empowering.
The goal is not to accuse yourself, but to understand your role more clearly. Recognizing troubling dynamics is the first step toward positive change.
Keep in mind, influence is different from control. And autonomy coexists with interdependence in healthy relationships. This quiz offers a thoughtful starting point to explore areas needing growth with care and courage.
Let’s start.
How do you typically react when your partner makes plans without consulting you?
How do you handle disagreements in your relationship?
How do you react if your partner wants to spend time with friends or pursue personal hobbies?
How do you feel about your partner having close friendships with people of the opposite gender?
How do you react when your partner expresses a different opinion on a significant decision?
How do you handle surprises or unexpected events in your relationship?
How do you handle financial decisions within the relationship?
How do you handle disagreements about the division of household responsibilities?
How do you react when your partner wants to pursue personal goals that may require time and effort?
How do you handle disagreements about how to spend free time together?
How do you react when your partner expresses the need for personal space or alone time?
How do you handle differences in personal values or beliefs within the relationship?
How do you approach decision-making regarding major life choices, such as career changes or relocation?
How do you respond when your partner wants to spend time with friends without you?
How do you handle disagreements about how to celebrate special occasions?
How do you react when your partner wants to pursue a hobby or interest that doesn't involve you?
How do you approach decision-making regarding the decor of your shared living space?
How do you handle differences in lifestyle choices, such as diet or exercise routines?
How do you react when your partner wants to pursue further education or career development?
How do you handle disagreements about how to spend leisure time together?
Am I Controlling Quiz?
Autonomy Support
Autonomy support refers to the encouragement and respect given to an individual's need for independence, freedom, and personal decision-making. In a relationship, it involves supporting and fostering each partner's ability to make choices and pursue individual interests.
Collaboration
Collaboration signifies the cooperative and joint efforts between partners in a relationship. It involves working together, sharing responsibilities, and making decisions collectively. Collaboration fosters a sense of teamwork, where both individuals contribute to the well-being of the relationship.
Control
Control relates to the exertion of influence or authority within a relationship. It can manifest as a desire to dictate decisions, behaviors, or situations. Healthy relationships often balance control, allowing for shared decision-making and respecting each partner's autonomy.
Dominance
Dominance involves asserting power, authority, or control over another individual in a relationship. This may include a desire to lead, make decisions unilaterally, or establish a hierarchy. Healthy relationships strive for mutual respect and shared influence rather than dominance.
About Ethan Archer
Ethan is a writer and editor dedicated to exploring the dynamics of modern relationships. He also plays a pivotal role in shaping the editorial direction of RelationUp.
