Gaslighting is one of the most insidious forms of emotional abuse. The gradual chipping away at your reality and instincts can make you question your very sanity. Yet because it’s often subtle, gaslighting can be difficult to identify when you’re in the thick of it.
This quiz will help you understand if the person closest to you is exhibiting the classic signs of a gaslighter. These questions will analyze patterns of lying, denial of your perceptions, accusing you of oversensitivity, reversal of victimhood, and other manipulation tactics.
Some of the scenarios may seem mild out of context, while others are more overtly abusive. But taken collectively, your responses will shed light on whether you’re caught in the gaslighting web of deceit and disorientation.
Once you identify the recurring toxic behaviors for what they are, you’ll be equipped to set boundaries or opt out entirely.
Let’s find out then.
How do you feel after discussing your concerns with your partner?
How often do you catch your partner in lies or inconsistencies?
How does your partner respond when you confront them about their behavior?
How does your partner react when you express your emotions or needs?
How often do you feel like you're walking on eggshells around your partner?
How does your partner make you feel about your own perceptions or memories?
How does your partner respond when you express concerns about inconsistencies in their behavior?
How does your partner react when you confront them about discrepancies in their stories?
How does your partner react when you express hurt or frustration about their behavior?
How does your partner react when you express disagreement or dissatisfaction with their actions?
How does your partner respond when you express your feelings or concerns?
How does your partner react when you question their behavior or actions?
How does your partner respond when you try to establish boundaries?
How often do you feel like your perception of reality is being challenged?
How often do you feel like you're being manipulated or controlled?
How does your partner respond when you question their behavior or actions?
How often do you feel like you're losing your sense of self or identity in the relationship?
How does your partner react when you try to establish boundaries?
How often do you feel like your partner makes you doubt your own memory or sanity?
How does your partner react when you express dissatisfaction or unhappiness in the relationship?
Am I Being Gaslighted Quiz?
Awareness
Based on your answers, it seems like you're very aware of the signs of gaslighting and have noticed manipulative behavior in your relationship. You're able to recognize when your thoughts and feelings are being manipulated and are taking steps to deal with it.
Knowledgeable
Based on your answers, it seems like you have a bit of knowledge about gaslighting and its effects. However, you might not feel completely sure about recognizing it in your relationship. Sometimes, you might question what's real, but you're not entirely certain if it's because of gaslighting or something else.
Unsure
Based on your answers, it seems like you're not entirely sure if gaslighting is happening in your relationship. You've noticed some behaviors that concern you, but you're unsure if they qualify as gaslighting. It's important to think about your experiences and consider seeking support if necessary.
Clueless
Based on your answers, it seems like you might not recognize gaslighting or understand how it affects relationships. This could mean you're less aware of manipulative behaviors, which might put you at risk of being affected by gaslighting tactics.
About Ethan Archer
Ethan is a writer and editor dedicated to exploring the dynamics of modern relationships. He also plays a pivotal role in shaping the editorial direction of RelationUp.
