Remember the early days of social distancing? When we were all asked to stay home, keep six feet apart, and wear masks? Most of us understood the logic—protect yourself and others. But then, there were those people. The ones who threw tantrums over masks, hosted massive parties during lockdowns, or insisted that the pandemic was a hoax.
While some were just misinformed, others showed a glaring pattern: narcissistic behavior. For narcissists, social distancing wasn’t just an inconvenience—it was an insult. Why? Because at the core of their personality is a deep belief that rules don’t apply to them, and their needs come first.
So why do narcissists struggle with social distancing? And more importantly, how can you recognize and deal with this behavior in your own life? Let’s break it down with some eye-opening insights, real-life examples, and a few laughs along the way.
The Narcissistic Mindset: Why They Just Don’t Get It
1. Rules? What Rules?
Narcissists don’t believe rules apply to them. They view guidelines—like social distancing—as suggestions meant for other people. If a store requires masks, they’ll storm in without one, convinced that their “personal choice” overrides public safety.
2. Control Issues Galore
Social distancing takes away the control narcissists love to have over situations and people. Being told where they can go, who they can see, and what they can do? That’s their worst nightmare. Instead of adjusting like everyone else, they rebel—often loudly and dramatically.
3. Lack of Empathy: The Missing Ingredient
Empathy is what makes us care about others’ well-being. Narcissists? Not so much. They struggle to see why their actions affect others. If they feel fine, they assume everyone must be fine too. The idea that their actions could harm vulnerable people? Barely registers.
4. Attention-Seeking Even in a Pandemic
Some narcissists love the spotlight. Social distancing meant fewer opportunities to show off, so they found new ways—like hosting illegal parties, ranting online about “oppression,” or filming maskless grocery store stunts.
Real-Life Examples: Spotting Narcissistic Behavior
The Birthday Party That Couldn’t Be Canceled
Emma’s friend Olivia threw a huge birthday bash in the middle of lockdown. When Emma expressed concern, Olivia dismissed it with, “If people don’t feel safe, they don’t have to come. But I deserve to celebrate!” That’s classic narcissistic thinking—placing personal desires over collective responsibility.
The “It’s Just a Flu” Guy
Mark, a coworker, insisted on coming to the office sick. “I don’t have COVID,” he claimed. “Just a little cough. You all are overreacting.” Ignoring how his actions could impact others, he saw any concern as unnecessary drama rather than valid precaution.
How to Deal with Narcissists in a Socially Distanced World
5. Set Clear Boundaries (And Stick to Them!)
If a narcissist in your life refuses to follow safety measures, be firm about your limits. “I’d love to see you, but only if we can meet outdoors and maintain distance.” If they refuse, that’s their problem—not yours.
6. Don’t Engage in Endless Arguments
Trying to reason with a narcissist about social distancing can feel like debating a brick wall. They’ll twist facts, make it about themselves, or gaslight you into thinking you’re the problem. Save your energy—state your stance and move on.
7. Lead by Example
Instead of arguing, simply demonstrate responsible behavior. Mask up, sanitize, and respect guidelines. Some narcissists crave social validation, so when they see everyone else complying, they might follow suit just to fit in.
8. Avoid Guilt-Tripping Yourself
Narcissists are pros at making others feel guilty. If they call you “paranoid” or “brainwashed,” remind yourself that prioritizing health isn’t an overreaction. Their lack of concern doesn’t mean yours is invalid.
9. Use Humor to Deflect
Sometimes, the best way to deal with narcissistic nonsense is with humor. If they complain about wearing a mask, hit them with, “Think of it as a fashion statement! Plus, it hides your ‘resting annoyed face.’”
10. Protect Your Mental Health
Interacting with narcissists can be exhausting. Limit exposure (pun intended), mute them on social media, and focus on people who do respect boundaries.
The Takeaway: Stay Safe, Stay Sane
Navigating social distancing was tough enough without dealing with people who think rules don’t apply to them. While you can’t change a narcissist’s mindset, you can control how you respond. Set boundaries, protect your peace, and remember—choosing safety isn’t selfish, but ignoring it definitely is.
Got a story about dealing with a narcissist during social distancing? Share it in the comments—we could all use a little solidarity!
