Breakups can leave you with a million questions, but one of the biggest might be: “Does my ex still miss me?”
If you’ve found yourself overthinking every text, social media post, or accidental run-in, you’re not alone.
Good news? There are actually some telltale signs that your ex is still thinking about you. Let’s dive into 15 clear signs your ex misses you after the breakup—and what they might mean.
1. He Keeps Texting You “Just to Check In”
If your ex is still sliding into your DMs or texting you “just to see how you’re doing,” there’s a good chance he’s missing you.
Because let’s be honest—no one checks in on their ex for no reason.
Pro Tip: If he’s texting late at night or after a few drinks, that “I miss you” energy is even more obvious.
2. He Stalks Your Social Media
Did he just like your three-month-old Instagram post? Suspicious.
If your ex is watching every story, liking your posts, or even leaving comments, he’s definitely keeping tabs on you.
And if he accidentally likes something from 2019? Oh yeah, he’s deep in the feels.
3. Mutual Friends Say He’s Been Asking About You
If your mutual friends casually mention that your ex has been asking how you’re doing, that’s a pretty solid sign he’s still thinking about you.
No one asks about their ex out of sheer curiosity—they’re fishing for info because they care.
4. He Still Hasn’t Returned Your Stuff
If your ex is still holding onto your hoodie, that book you lent him, or literally anything else, there might be a reason.
Sometimes, holding onto your things is just an excuse to keep a connection alive—or a reason to see you again.
Bonus points if he’s using your stuff as an excuse to text you every few weeks.
5. He Posts “Subtle” Hints on Social Media
Is he suddenly posting emotional song lyrics, throwback pics, or memes about heartbreak?
Yeah, those posts probably aren’t for his grandma. He might be trying to send you a message without actually saying it.
6. He Drunk Texts You
Ah, the classic drunk text. If your ex is reaching out after a few too many, it’s probably because his true feelings are slipping through.
Alcohol has a funny way of bringing out those hidden emotions—especially missing someone.
7. He Gets Jealous of Other Guys
If your ex is acting salty whenever you mention another guy, it’s a dead giveaway.
Jealousy after a breakup usually means one thing: he’s not over you yet.
8. He Finds Random Reasons to Call or Text
Did he just text you to ask for the name of that one movie you watched together? Or call to “double-check” something completely irrelevant?
If your ex is finding weird reasons to reach out, it’s probably because he’s missing you and looking for any excuse to talk.
9. He Keeps Showing Up in Places You Go
If you’re suddenly bumping into your ex at your favorite coffee shop or gym, it might not be a coincidence.
Sometimes, an ex will “accidentally” show up where they know you’ll be just to see you.
Spoiler alert: If this keeps happening, he’s probably hoping for a conversation—or at least a glance.
10. He Brings Up Inside Jokes or Memories
If your ex is texting you about that one hilarious inside joke or bringing up sweet memories, it’s not random.
He’s reminiscing because he misses those moments—and probably misses you too.
11. He’s Still Close With Your Friends or Family
If your ex is still hanging out with your friends or staying in touch with your family, it could be because he doesn’t want to let go completely.
Staying connected to your circle is often a way to stay connected to you.
12. He Looks for Emotional Support from You
If your ex is still turning to you when he’s feeling down, stressed, or overwhelmed, it’s a big sign he misses the emotional connection you shared.
After all, people don’t seek comfort from someone they’re completely over.
13. He Keeps the Door Open for “What If” Conversations
If your ex keeps bringing up the “what ifs”—like “what if we gave it another shot?” or “what if things were different?”—he’s probably still holding onto hope.
14. He Apologizes for Past Mistakes
If your ex is suddenly apologizing for things that happened during your relationship, it might be because he’s reflecting on what went wrong—and missing what you had.
Let’s be honest: People don’t usually apologize to their ex unless they’re feeling some type of way.
15. He’s Not Dating Anyone New
If your ex is still single and isn’t even trying to date anyone new, there’s a good chance he’s not ready to move on.
Sometimes, staying single after a breakup isn’t just about healing—it’s about not wanting to replace someone they still miss.
What Should You Do If Your Ex Misses You?
Okay, so your ex misses you. Now what?
Before you jump back into anything, take a moment to reflect.
Do you miss them too, or are you just feeling nostalgic? Are the reasons you broke up still there?
Pro Tip: Don’t let missing someone make you forget why you broke up in the first place.
If you do want to reconnect, take things slow. And if you don’t? That’s okay too.
Either way, remember this: Your happiness matters, and you deserve someone who’s all in—not just someone who misses you when you’re gone.
