Have you fallen head over heels in love with a man, but youāre unsure whether he wants a serious relationship with you?
When we catch feelings for someone, itās difficult to trust our own judgment about them. The danger of seeing our significant other through rose-colored glasses is real.
However, I have good news for you!
I can tell you from personal experience that finding out his real intentions with you is not that hard. All you have to do is look for the signs that typically give men away in this situation.
And the best part?
By the end of this article, the uncertainty that is eating you up inside right now will go away! Youāll know for sure if heās in for the long haul or just passing through.
How?
Iāll share with you 21 revealing signs he wants a relationship with you.
Letās get started!
21 Signs He Wants A Relationship With You:
1. He lets things flow naturally between you two
Unofficially, my partner and I have been together for 5 years. Officially, weāve been together for 4 years.
Yes, you got it right!
We didnāt put a label on our relationship for one year. Itās not that I didnāt think about having a DTR conversation with him.
I did, but, at the same time, things were progressing between us. We didnāt take any steps back in our relationship just because we didnāt define it.
I guess you could say that we took our time. And while thatās true, the fact that we both naturally pushed the relationship further mattered a lot.
So, if you feel your relationship has been progressing since you two started dating, take it as a positive sign.
On top of that, if he occasionally calls you his babe or āgirlfriendā, you have all the reasons to believe he wants to take things to the next level with you.
2. He enjoys spending his free time with you
Iāll be honest with you: At the beginning of my current relationship, my partner and I hooked up a lot.
Every time we got together, we somehow ended up in the bedroom. Sparks were flying and the passion was indescribable.
But, do you know when I knew he wanted something more?
- When he started asking me to go out for long walks or go out for drinks with him;
- When he stopped focusing on the physical part of our relationship;
- When he wanted to spend even more time with me than before.
Turns out, I was right! Most men donāt know if they want a serious relationship early on but they know this:
When they want more, they naturally go from only thinking about having sex with her as a primary thought, to actually taking an interest in her as a person.
Can you relate? If he enjoys spending his free time with you and heās not focused on sexual attraction, take it as a sign he wants to get serious with you.
3. He takes interest in your daily life
Let me ask you this: When you meet him, does he ask you about your day? Is he curious to find out more about what you do at work?
If he takes interest in your daily life, itās a good sign! It shows that you sparked a deep attraction in him and he wants to know more and more about you.
Unless he has hidden motives, no man would display a false interest. Men are quite notorious for wanting to keep things simple.
In my case, the transition was pretty obvious. I was surprised when he first told me that I can vent to him. He didnāt mind listening to me letting my feelings out about the most insignificant things.
On the contrary, he even asked me follow-up questions. He wanted to know what was making me stressed, and what was making me happy throughout the day.
4. You already know his family and friends
How else can you tell if heās genuinely interested in a serious relationship with you?
If a man does his best to include you in his life and in his world, take it as a sign he has serious intentions with you.
The explanation is simple: He introduced you to his family because he wants you to be part of it.
Whatās more, he introduced you to his friends and family, because he wants you to be part of his close circle of people he loves and trusts.
You can look at it this way: If he has no intention to keep you in his life, why would he bother to mix the two worlds?
He wouldnāt!
5. He doesnāt ask for tasteless nudes
Wellā¦ maybe he did ask you for one nude photo or more when you two first started dating and his mind was elsewhere.
But, is this something he keeps doing?
If he does, Iām not going to lie to youā¦ he might be stuck in that relationship phase with you. But if he doesnāt, and instead he asks for a picture with you all tucked in, the odds are in your favor.
It appears that he has gained enough respect for you and romantic feelings to not be that guy anymore. He knows he can see you naked whenever he wants, so thereās no point in being that obvious about it.
6. He opens up to you without hesitation
Look, being vulnerable with someone is hard. It doesnāt come easy at all, not even with someone you love. It takes a lot of courage and desire to be seen to do that.
Thatās why you can be sure he wants a relationship with you if he tells you sensitive things about himself or game-changer things.
Overall, if he gives you the opportunity to judge him, itās because he wants to build a future with you. He wants that and thatās why he takes a chance and shows you the real him.
Want to know what happened in my case?
He opened up about his former addiction to certain illegal substances. Although that was not putting him in a good light and it was an ongoing problem (the risk of relapse is always there), he took the chance and told me about it.
7. He doesnāt use dating apps anymore
If youāve been dating for a few months now, I think we all agree that he shouldnāt be on any dating apps. The same goes for you.
In case he knows what he wants and doesnāt need other women in his life, it should be pretty simple for him (and you) to take that step.
However, there is another possibility: He still uses dating apps because he wants to keep his options open. He isnāt actually serious about you. Or, at least not yet.
This is especially true if you met him online. So, donāt be afraid to face the truth. Just because heās not ready now, it doesnāt mean he never will.
Although my partner and I didnāt meet online and he wasnāt using dating apps, he did talk to other girls during our first year together.
However, he gradually gave that up as his feelings for me got deeper and deeper. For 4 years now, we are both transparent and know each otherās passwords.
8. You hear from him during the day, not only at night
Listen, unless your man works late hours, he has no excuse for calling you late at night only! I mean, what are youā¦ his booty call?
To tell you the truth, you might be his booty call if heās only calling you at night. You see, you might think you have a real thing going with him but maybe heās deceiving you and using you.
How can you tell?
Well, if heās shown any of the signs he wants a relationship with you, then he probably has a good reason for calling late. If you donāt know what it is, donāt hesitate to ask him.
However, if heās shamelessly contacting you at late hours on purpose, he might not be the man youāll spend your future with.
9. He respects your boundaries
Letās talk about boundaries. Do you know his? Does he know yours?
The topic of boundaries is quite complex because there are 4 main types of boundaries, namely emotional boundaries, physical boundaries, sexual boundaries, and workplace boundaries.
One example of a physical and sexual boundary is this: You tell him itās okay for him to touch your private parts, but not in public. If he respects your boundary, heāll do what you asked him.
However, if he doesnāt, heāll do just the opposite. And that would be a negative sign. No man who respects his partner and wants to build a serious relationship with her would do that on purpose.
While your boundaries may differ, the idea stays the same.
10. He gets territorial when other guys are around
One natural response in a man when heās serious about the woman heās dating is jealousy or even possessiveness.
While these are not desirable traits and they can get pretty wild if left unsupervised, they also indicate a deeper level of attraction and commitment.
The guy youāre in love with might be confident, but if he shows any signs of jealousy or gets territorial when other guys are around you, it might mean he wants a relationship with you.
He is actually interested in a serious relationship with you and thatās why he reacts when he sees a possible threat.
Examples of jealous/territorial behavior are:
- He seems bothered when other guys make you laugh;
- He gets closer to you when other guys talk to you;
- He doesnāt like it when you say nice things about other men;
- He tries to prove to you that he is better than anyone else;
- He points his feet towards you and tries to draw attention to him.
If he doesn’t want anyone else to have you then he will definitely display some of these signs.
11. He asks you a lot of questions about yourself
Want to know another sign heās totally into you? He asks you questions, but not just any questions.
He is interested to find out facts about yourself and things related to your friends, family, future plans about career, and so on.
On top of that, he also asks you about your likes and dislikes and he might even slip a question like, āWhat are you looking for in a long-term partner?ā
So, give this sign some thought and try to remember what he asked you lately. His questions can reveal a lot about his romantic intentions with you.
12. He lets you know what happens in his life
Do you remember before when I talked about a manās desire to include you in his life by introducing you to his friends and family?
Well, this sign is related to that. If he sees a future with you, any man is compelled to tell you more and more about himself.
He doesnāt only feel the need to share things with you because you two have a deep connection. He also wants you to be a part of his world so he naturally opens up about it.
How can you tell for sure? He tells you the bad stuff too, not only the good stuff.
13. He share his future plans and youāre a part of it
When a man starts imagining what a future with you in it would look like, it means heās really excited about being with you right now.
He probably wants to do a lot of things with you and because he canāt do them all at once, he tries to make a plan for the future.
Another reason why he might talk about a future together is to check if your views are compatible with his. For example, maybe you want a big family with many kids and he doesnāt.
He is checking you two are on the same page about certain things which is needed in a long term relationship.
So, thereās really no other way to find out except by talking about it.
14. You both have discovered new hobbies together
Does he want a serious relationship with you?
Another way to tell is if heās taking interest in any of your hobbies or if he tried to discover and practice new hobbies with you.
While having lots of things in common is no longer a prerequisite for successful relationships, when two people find common ground, they tend to create a deeper bond compared to other couples.
So, think about what you two do together:
- Do you like to cook together?
- Do you like to go jogging together?
- Have you joined a Zumba class together?
- Do you play video games together or binge on TV shows?
- Do you like to go treasure hunting in thrift shops?
Whatever you do, if thereās something you do together, it means your relationship is on the right track.
15. He asks for your advice and follows it
When a man asks for your opinion and values it, it means heās serious about you. It means that sometime during the past you said something to him that was actually useful and now he wants more.
At first, maybe he listened to you out of respect or because he didnāt know what to do. However, if he still does the same, it means he actually relies on your advice and treasures it.
If heās interested in what you think, itās also a sign that he considers you a capable woman whoās got the right answers lined up.
Or, maybe heās blindly following you because heās head over heels in love with you, too!
16. He initiates in-depth conversations with you
In-depth conversations make us feel closer to the person weāre talking to and determine them to open up as well.
Whatās more, a journal article in social psychology has shown that self-disclosure generates feelings of attraction.
In simpler words, if he initiates a deep talk with you, youāll feel more attracted to him. As a result, if you take his topics seriously, heāll also feel more attracted to you.
So, if heās already doing it, it means he feels attracted to you and stimulated as well.
17. He is always available to help you out
If he offers his help when itās not convenient for him, then you can be sure this guy wants you to be his.
Of course, at first, any guy would drop everything and come help you out – especially if he knew he was going to get some action.
However, if your guy still does it and goes out of his way to help you whenever you need help, then he is looking for a serious relation with you.
If tries to make you feel secure with his helping hand and his presence when you need help then donāt have to look for any more signs.
Really, youāre done here!
18. He is honest with you and doesnāt hide things from you
After dating a man for a while, you should be able to tell if heās being honest or hiding things from you.
Most often than not, you can only rely on your intuition because itās practically impossible to find evidence.
However, in time, his behavior will lead you to the right conclusion.
Hereās how to tell if heās honest:
- He always keeps his word;
- His actions match his words;
- He never ignores you;
- He tells you what heās up to without asking him;
- He doesnāt hide his phone from you.
19. He invites you to events and parties
To figure out if a man wants to be in a committed exclusive relationship with you, ask yourself if heās showing you to the world or heās hiding you.
If he invites you to various events and wants you to join him at parties, not only family dinners and get-togethers, it means heās proud to have you by his side and his intentions are real.
However, if he only wants to meet you in private and he never takes you out on a date, he might not want your relationship to progress.
20. He doesnāt act needy or desperate
Are you familiar with the term ālove bombingā?
It refers to showering someone with lots of attention, love, admiration, affection, and so on. And while that may not sound particularly bad to some of us, itās not something that can help a committed relationship grow beautifully.
In fact, psychologists consider love bombing to be unhealthy because it entails a relationship should progress fast.
So, if your man is aware that you sometimes need to spend quality time alone and he respects your boundaries, heās a keeper and he knows you are too.
He is aware that acting needy or desperate will only push you away from him. Even if he feels needy or desperate, heās not showing that to you because he doesnāt want to scare you off.
21. You havenāt noticed any red flags about him
To see if this sign is true in your case, here are a few examples of red flags:
- He doesnāt give you reasons to trust him;
- He doesnāt try to communicate effectively;
- His behavior can be described as narcissistic or egocentric;
- He tries to control you or aspects of your life;
- He is gaslighting you every chance he gets.
Overall, if you canāt trust him, feel safe around him, and he always brings you down, run! Heās not interested in a serious relationship with you.
However, if the opposite is true, youāre good to go!
What’s Next?
By now you should have a good idea about whether he wants a serious relationship with you. So, what does he want?
If he wants a relationship with you and you want the same thing, then you have all the reasons to celebrate! Maybe you found your one and only and this is just the beginning of your wonderful journey together.
But what if the signs say heās not serious about you?
If thatās true, it might mean heās not ready to take things to the next level with you at the moment. He might never be ready, he could be shy, so give this some thought and decide if you want to invest more time in your relationship with him or not.
Ultimately, your happiness is the most important one. Donāt sacrifice it for the wrong man!