Breakups are messy, confusing, and full of mixed signals. One day, your ex seems totally over you, and the next? He’s liking your Instagram selfies and texting you “Hey, hope you’re doing okay.”
So, how do you know if your ex still has feelings for you?
Here’s the good news: there are some clear signs to watch for. Let’s break down 24 undeniable clues that your ex-boyfriend still isn’t over you—and what they might mean.
1. He Texts You Out of the Blue
Random “just thinking about you” texts? Yep, that’s a huge sign.
No one texts their ex just to chat unless they’re still holding onto feelings.
2. He Watches All Your Social Media Stories
If your ex is the first to view every Instagram story you post, he’s still keeping tabs on your life.
Bonus points if he likes your posts within seconds.
3. He Asks Your Friends About You
If your friends tell you that your ex has been asking how you’ve been, trust me—he’s not doing it out of boredom.
4. He Brings Up Old Memories
If your ex keeps reminiscing about that funny road trip or your favorite Netflix binge sessions, it’s because he misses those moments (and you).
5. He Drunk Texts You
Ah, the classic drunk text.
If your ex reaches out after a few drinks, his feelings are definitely still bubbling under the surface.
6. He Gets Jealous When You Mention Other Guys
If your ex suddenly gets all weird when you talk about dating someone new, it’s because the thought of you moving on isn’t sitting well with him.
7. He Finds Excuses to Reach Out
“Hey, did I leave my hoodie at your place?”
If he’s still texting you about random things, he might just be looking for a reason to talk.
8. He Keeps Your Stuff
If your ex still hasn’t returned your favorite sweatshirt, it might be because it reminds him of you—and he’s not ready to let go.
9. He’s Not Dating Anyone New
If he’s still single months after the breakup, it could be because no one else compares to you.
10. He Responds to Your Texts Immediately
If your ex replies faster than your internet connection, he’s still very much invested.
11. He Compliments You (A Lot)
If he keeps telling you how great you look or how much he admired you, those feelings are definitely still there.
12. He Gets Emotional Around You
If your ex gets nostalgic, sad, or sentimental whenever you talk, it’s a clear sign his feelings haven’t faded.
13. He Tries to Make You Jealous
Is he suddenly posting pictures with random girls? Sometimes, an ex tries to make you jealous just to get your attention.
14. He Brings Up “What If” Scenarios
If he keeps saying things like “What if we gave it another shot?” or “What if things had been different?”—yeah, he’s still hoping.
15. He Apologizes for Past Mistakes
If he’s suddenly apologizing for everything that went wrong, he might be reflecting on what he lost.
16. He Stays in Touch with Your Family or Friends
If he’s still chatting with your mom or hanging out with your best friend, it’s likely because he wants to stay connected to your world.
17. He Shows Up Where You Are
If you keep bumping into him at your usual spots, it might not be accidental.
18. He Tries to Help You Out
If your ex is still offering help—whether it’s fixing your Wi-Fi or giving you a ride—it’s a sign he cares more than he lets on.
19. He’s Curious About Your Love Life
If he asks if you’re seeing anyone new, trust me—he’s not asking out of pure curiosity.
20. He Acts Differently Around You
If he seems nervous, flirty, or just… different when he’s around you, his feelings are still lingering.
21. He Sends You Songs, Memes, or Inside Jokes
If he’s still sending you funny memes or songs that remind him of you, it’s his way of staying connected.
22. He Mentions Missing You
If he outright says, “I miss you,” well, there’s not much left to guess, is there?
23. He Gets Defensive When Asked About You
If his friends tease him about still liking you and he gets all flustered, that’s your sign right there.
24. He Wants to “Stay Friends”
If your ex is pushing to stay friends after the breakup, it’s often because he’s not ready to let you go entirely.
What Should You Do If Your Ex Still Has Feelings for You?
If you’re seeing these signs, take a moment to figure out what you want.
Do you want to give it another try, or are you ready to move forward?
Pro Tip: Don’t rush into anything. Trust your gut, and remember—you deserve someone who’s all in, whether that’s your ex or someone new.
