Breakups are messy. One moment, you’re sure it’s over, and the next, your ex is sliding into your DMs, reminiscing about old times, or casually “bumping into you” at your favorite coffee shop. Are they just being friendly, or do they secretly want you back?
If you’re confused by the mixed signals, don’t worry—you’re not alone. Here are 21 signs your ex might still have feelings for you and could be hoping for a second chance.
1. They Keep Finding Excuses to Contact You
A random text about a song that reminds them of you? A late-night “Hey, how have you been?” message? If your ex keeps reaching out for seemingly no reason, they’re testing the waters.
2. They Like and Comment on Your Posts
Social media stalking is real. If they’re consistently liking your pictures, reacting to your stories, or dropping comments, they’re keeping tabs on you. Bonus points if they comment on old posts—because why are they scrolling that far back?
3. They Bring Up Inside Jokes
Ever had an ex randomly text you an inside joke that only you two understand? It’s their way of reconnecting without outright saying, “I miss you.”
4. They “Accidentally” Run Into You
Sure, coincidences happen. But if they always seem to be at the same places you are—especially places they never went before—it’s not an accident.
5. They Ask Mutual Friends About You
If your mutual friends casually mention that your ex has been asking about you, chances are, they’re fishing for information. They want to know if you’re seeing someone, if you’re happy, and most importantly, if you miss them.
6. They Drunk Call or Text You
Alcohol has a way of bringing out the truth. If your ex gets tipsy and suddenly decides to pour their heart out, they probably still have unresolved feelings.
7. They Get Jealous
If they act weird or bitter when they hear about you dating someone new, that’s a clear sign they’re not over you. A truly moved-on ex wouldn’t care.
8. They Try to Make You Jealous
Are they suddenly posting flirty selfies with someone new? Dropping hints that they’re dating around? They might be trying to get a reaction out of you.
9. They Keep Reminiscing About the Good Times
If every conversation turns into “Remember when we…” and they only focus on the happy moments, it means they’re missing what you had.
10. They Haven’t Moved On
Months have passed, but they’re still single, still talking about you, and still not interested in anyone else. Suspicious? Absolutely.
11. They Act Hot and Cold
One day they’re super friendly and flirty, the next, they’re distant. This push-and-pull behavior means they’re conflicted about their feelings.
12. They Apologize for Past Mistakes
If your ex suddenly wants to make amends and take responsibility for their part in the breakup, they might be hoping for a fresh start with you.
13. They Keep Bringing Up “What If” Scenarios
Do they randomly say things like, “What if we had worked things out?” or “What if we gave it another shot?” That’s a clear sign they’re thinking about a second chance.
14. They Ask If You’re Seeing Someone
This isn’t just small talk—it’s detective work. They’re trying to gauge if they still have a shot with you.
15. They Keep Small Mementos from Your Relationship
If they still have that hoodie you left at their place or haven’t deleted old pictures of you two, they’re not fully ready to let go.
16. They Go Out of Their Way to Help You
If they offer to help with things they normally wouldn’t, like fixing something at your place or running an errand for you, they might be trying to prove they still care.
17. They Remember Important Dates
Did they wish you happy birthday exactly at midnight? Bring up your work anniversary? Remember the day you first met? That’s not by accident.
18. They Get Nostalgic About “Your Song”
If they send you a song that was meaningful in your relationship or post it on their story with a cryptic caption, they’re probably reminiscing about you.
19. They Follow Your Every Move Online
They don’t just like your posts; they watch everything. If they’re the first to view your stories or engage with every little thing you do, they’re still invested.
20. They Talk About You to Others
When people tell you, “Your ex still talks about you a lot,” it means you’re still on their mind—probably more than they’d like to admit.
21. They Flat-Out Tell You They Miss You
The biggest sign of all? They say it. If they come right out and admit they miss you, there’s no need to read between the lines anymore.
So, What Now?
If you’ve checked off several of these signs, your ex probably wants you back. The real question is—do you want them back?
If you’re considering giving things another shot, ask yourself:
- Has anything changed since the breakup?
- Are they making a real effort, or is this just nostalgia?
- Would getting back together be healthy for both of you?
Sometimes, an ex reappears because they’re lonely, not because they truly want to rekindle the relationship. So before jumping back in, make sure it’s for the right reasons.
Whatever you decide, trust your gut—it knows more than you think. 💙
