We’ve all been there—holding onto someone (or something) that we know deep down we should have let go of ages ago. Maybe it’s that ex who keeps sliding into your DMs with a “Hey, you up?” at 2 AM. Or perhaps it’s the situationship that’s been dragging on longer than your gym membership. Either way, it’s time to leave them behind.
2024 is here, and guess what? You deserve to step into it without baggage from the past weighing you down. No more energy-draining texts, no more one-sided relationships, and definitely no more settling for less than you deserve. This is your year to prioritize yourself, set boundaries, and move forward with confidence.
So, how do you do that? I’ve got you covered. Here are 15+ practical and empowering ways to leave them in 2024—right where they belong.
1. Accept That It’s Over (For Real This Time)
First things first, you have to accept that this chapter is closed. No more wishful thinking, no more “Maybe they’ll change” daydreams. If they were meant to be in your life, they would have acted like it already.
Pro Tip: Whenever you feel tempted to romanticize the past, remind yourself why it didn’t work out in the first place. Screenshot those receipts if you have to.
2. Unfollow, Block, Delete—Repeat
Digital detox time! Keeping tabs on their Instagram stories or checking their “last seen” on WhatsApp is not doing you any favors. Hit that unfollow button, block them if needed, and delete those old messages. Out of sight, out of mind.
Example: Think of your phone as a VIP club. If they don’t bring good vibes, their name shouldn’t be on the guest list.
3. Stop Replaying the Good Times
Yes, there were happy moments, but you broke up (or drifted apart) for a reason. Instead of focusing on the highlight reel, remember the full picture—the late replies, the emotional rollercoasters, the excuses.
Actionable Step: Write down every moment that made you feel unappreciated. The next time nostalgia kicks in, read that list.
4. Cut Off “Check-Ins” and Casual Texts
We get it, the urge to text “Happy Birthday” or “Hope you’re doing well” can be strong. But let’s be honest—this is just a way to keep the door open. Don’t do it. You’re not a customer service rep, and they don’t need a follow-up call.
Real Talk: If they wanted to stay in your life, they wouldn’t need random check-ins to remind them of you.
5. Set Boundaries (and Stick to Them)
If they keep trying to slide back into your life, be clear about your boundaries. No, you don’t owe them closure. No, they can’t still have access to you “as a friend.” Be firm.
Example: If they text, “I miss you,” you don’t need to reply with “I miss you too.” You can just… not reply at all.
6. Keep Your Friends from Being Your FBI Agents
“Can you just check their profile and see if they’re dating someone?” NO. Let it go. Asking friends to do recon work only keeps you stuck. Focus on your own glow-up, not their whereabouts.
Pro Tip: The best revenge is not caring. That’s it. That’s the tip.
7. Fill Your Calendar with Plans That Excite You
A packed schedule leaves little room for dwelling on the past. Plan trips, pick up a hobby, sign up for that dance class—whatever keeps you moving forward.
Example: The next time you feel like texting them, go book a fun activity instead. Keep yourself so busy that they become an afterthought.
8. Create a “Moving On” Playlist
Music is therapy. Make a playlist filled with empowering, feel-good songs that remind you of your worth. Beyoncé, Lizzo, Taylor Swift, Dua Lipa? Yes, please.
Fun Challenge: Name your playlist something dramatic, like “Surviving & Thriving” or “Left on Read & Loving It.”
9. Journal It Out
Writing helps process emotions. Vent in a journal, write unsent letters, or make a list of what you want in your next relationship. This is about your healing, not them.
Idea: Write a letter saying everything you never got to say—then burn it. Literally. (Safely, of course.)
10. Change Your Environment
A fresh start sometimes means switching things up. Rearrange your room, buy new bedsheets, or try a new coffee shop. Create spaces that don’t remind you of them.
Actionable Step: If they gave you gifts, donate them or tuck them away. No need for constant reminders of the past.
11. Work on Your Glow-Up
There’s nothing like a post-breakup glow-up. Hit the gym, revamp your wardrobe, or experiment with a new hairstyle. Focus on feeling your best.
Reality Check: The glow-up isn’t just about looks—it’s about mindset. Confidence is the real game-changer.
12. Reconnect with People Who Actually Care About You
Friends and family? They’ve been there for you all along. Strengthen those relationships. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, not those who drain you.
Example: That friend you kept canceling on because of them? Call them up. Apologize. Rebuild that bond.
13. Stop Looking for Closure
Spoiler alert: Closure isn’t something they give you—it’s something you give yourself. Waiting for a final conversation? A text? An apology? You don’t need it.
Mindset Shift: Accept that the chapter is closed, even if it ended mid-sentence.
14. Date Yourself First
Before jumping into something new, learn to enjoy your own company. Take yourself out on dates, try new things solo, and discover what truly makes you happy.
Pro Tip: Falling in love with your life is the best way to attract people who match your energy.
15. Let Go of the “What Ifs”
Stop playing the “What if I had done this differently?” game. What’s done is done. The only thing you can control now is your future.
Reality Check: The right person will never make you question your worth.
Final Thoughts: Walking into 2024 Like a Boss
You deserve a fresh start. No more chasing, no more waiting, no more overthinking. This is the year you reclaim your energy, your peace, and your happiness.
Leaving them behind doesn’t mean you’re bitter—it means you’re better. You’re stepping into 2024 lighter, stronger, and focused on what truly matters: YOU.
So go ahead, block that number, book that trip, and play your moving on anthem at full volume.
